It was a fun night. We played a rollicking game of Dutch Blitz and ate pizza. The kids ran around and the adults crashed on the couch and laughed and talked. When everyone left, we cleared the paper plates and straightened up the couch pillows. Then my sister called. I heard the frantic tone in her voice right away: "My diamond is missing! I looked down and it's gone!"
"What?!" I replied. "The whole ring or just the diamond?!?"
"The diamond fell out!" she exclaimed. "Please search your house! Oh it could be anywhere! Why didn't I notice? When could it have happened?!" She was rightfully flipping out.
We used flashlights and searched all over the kitchen and in the family room where she had been sitting. The next morning, I used the flashlight on my phone again and crawled all over the kitchen floor. I sighed. This was going to be a nearly impossible task.
I had to leave the house for a meeting and a few hours later I got a phone call from Chris. "We found the diamond!"
"What?! You did?!? Where??" I questioned.
Lydia, 9 years old, had found it in the bathroom, near the sink. It had gotten snagged on the hand towel and fell out. So close to going down the drain. Lost. Forever.
Chris put the lost treasure in a baggie, so we could return it to my sister. It looked so lost and forlorn, out of it's beautiful setting, where it usually perches regally on my sister's finger. I stared at the baggie when I got home later that day. And this is what came to me:
"A diamond out of its setting isn't worth any less, but when properly supported and displayed, its value shines."
In the last few years, I've known what it's like to be out of my proper setting. Lost. Displaced. Alone.
When you aren't in your sweet spot, it can be like thrashing around in the middle of the ocean. There's nothing to hold onto. No side of the pool to grasp. Everything feels like a wide-open space and little old you is just fending for yourself.
Contrast that with swimming in a pool with lane markers. You know exactly where the boundaries are. You swim with ease, cutting through the water with your strokes. You even have guides on the ceiling, so you can swim in a straight line when you're on your back. When you're tired, you can hold on to the side of the pool and rest.
When I saw my sister's beautiful diamond out of its setting, I was almost desperate to see it in its mount again. It just looked lost lying there, without it's supportive prongs.
Do you feel lost? Or are you in the right setting?
When You're in the Right Setting:
1. You feel supported
You deserve to be fully supported by your loved ones and staff. You have delegated tasks so everyone knows what they are doing and you are able to focus on what you do best. You don't have to constantly put out fires. When you check in with your team, they are getting their tasks done so you can get back to focusing on your responsibilities.
2. You feel confident
When you're in the right setting, you hold your head up high. You know what you're doing, you know how to do it, and although things aren't always easy, you know how to tackle the challenges. You've got this.
3. You feel your worth
When you're in the right place in life, you feel valued. You may not always get praised, but when you do, you embrace it. You know it's true. You know you're in the right place and you know that others know it too.
So what if you're NOT in the right setting? What if you're a lost diamond? You're still valuable. You're still worth a lot. You just need to have support and have a setting that supports you. Don't just accept the feeling of being lost. Acknowledge it. And set out to change things. Maybe you need different support staff. Maybe you need a change of scenery. Maybe you need new friends who see you, get you, and support you. Maybe you just need to speak up and say, "Hey. I need more support around here." It's amazing what happens when you use your voice and state your needs.
I hope you feel fully supported. And if you don't, I hope you'll reach out and get help.
Everyone deserves to shine like a diamond and sparkle in the sunlight--in the right setting.
About the Author
Hi, I'm Jen Hickle!